Decision-making and internal debate
"You will know you are doing the right thing when you are rewarded with peace."
Oprah Winery
When I think about any decision, I talk to myself through other people's mouths; Friends, co-workers, or Imaginary People. Anyone who I imagine their opinion is in contrast to mine. Furthermore, it is also impossible to change theirs.
Here we enter the battlefield (the internal discussion).
There I judge my "tone"...
Is it an angry, sarcastic, or "competing to a crowd" one?
Then my decision is not ready and needs more reflection.
Here we must sit still, take a breath, and re-re-reflect on the things that appear to us in need of a fight.
Take a breath and seek the essence of your resistance.
*Example*
If the decision has something to do with money, then what does "money" mean to you, or "the value of it":
Power to elevate pain, sacred, easy as it comes and goes, challenging to obtain, etc.
If there is a word that rings from all the values, then why that one?
Do you hold this value to be accurate based on your experience or readings? And why is that?
You play the "why game" for a period of several seconds to several minutes until you get to have peace with the direction of the decision.
(For this day, this decision is for these circumstances for these values is the right one)
And if we were in another circumstance -for example- the ease or difficulty of acquiring money. We will then make a different decision.
*End of the example*
What we want to arrive at are peaceful decisions:
Decisions are woven from things that go beyond the absolute Black and White logic to a circumstantial adoption.
And that decision, the one that brings peace, in my opinion, is a decision that we can live with.
And I will discuss this with my difficult colleagues, who were in my head and have a more robust logic than me. But the internal discussion from my side is calm:
"Thank you for expanding my perspective on things which aided my reflection on the subject...
-And complemented with inner peace, you continue to say-
. "You are absolutely right... But I feel that this is the right thing to do."
Oprah Winery
When I think about any decision, I talk to myself through other people's mouths; Friends, co-workers, or Imaginary People. Anyone who I imagine their opinion is in contrast to mine. Furthermore, it is also impossible to change theirs.
Here we enter the battlefield (the internal discussion).
There I judge my "tone"...
Is it an angry, sarcastic, or "competing to a crowd" one?
Then my decision is not ready and needs more reflection.
Here we must sit still, take a breath, and re-re-reflect on the things that appear to us in need of a fight.
Take a breath and seek the essence of your resistance.
*Example*
If the decision has something to do with money, then what does "money" mean to you, or "the value of it":
Power to elevate pain, sacred, easy as it comes and goes, challenging to obtain, etc.
If there is a word that rings from all the values, then why that one?
Do you hold this value to be accurate based on your experience or readings? And why is that?
You play the "why game" for a period of several seconds to several minutes until you get to have peace with the direction of the decision.
(For this day, this decision is for these circumstances for these values is the right one)
And if we were in another circumstance -for example- the ease or difficulty of acquiring money. We will then make a different decision.
*End of the example*
What we want to arrive at are peaceful decisions:
Decisions are woven from things that go beyond the absolute Black and White logic to a circumstantial adoption.
And that decision, the one that brings peace, in my opinion, is a decision that we can live with.
And I will discuss this with my difficult colleagues, who were in my head and have a more robust logic than me. But the internal discussion from my side is calm:
"Thank you for expanding my perspective on things which aided my reflection on the subject...
-And complemented with inner peace, you continue to say-
. "You are absolutely right... But I feel that this is the right thing to do."
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